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Saturday, August 05, 2006

The unflattering in-betweens

They say nine months on, nine months off. But surely it would be nicer if it only took labor and birth to burn off all those calories and be back in our pre-pregnancy clothes. I remember thinking that there were several stages of pregnancy clothing--one for when none of the regular clothes fit, one for the cute-and-six-months-pregnant phase, and the hello-I'm-about-to-pop-the-seems-on-this-dress look. But postpartum has wardrobe issues of it's own.

My kiddo is just three weeks old and I'm totally frustrated with myself. And it's not even my weight that bothers me. Sure I'm a little rounder, a little softer, and more voluptuous thanks to nursing, and I'm okay with it. What was driving me crazy was the fact that I'm in a terrible in-between stage for clothing. My pregnancy clothes looked ridiculous and my non-pregnancy clothes were sizes too small. There was simply nothing to wear.

That left me in sweat pants and bulky T-shirts. As if the lovely things that happen to our bodies postpartum aren't bad enough--the crazy hormones, the bleeding, the night sweats, the sleep deprivation, the leaky boobs, the hair loss. It would be nice if I could at least be wearing cute clothing. Frumpiness is simply not acceptable. So I took steps. I went shopping for this unflattering in-between stage.

If we don't feel good--and who does with a three-week-old baby?--we need to at least feel like we look good. We need to have an illusion to grasp onto to convince ourselves that we feel good. Restaurant-owner friend told me that it's not how to feel, it's how you look. And I think that if you feel like you look good, it improves how you feel.

I've only had these new in-between clothes for a few days now and so far my attitude has improved immensely. Imagine what a little more reliable sleep would do...


  1. Anonymous10:56 AM

    Tell me where you shop! My daughter is 4 months old and I'm still clothing-challenged. I've lost all the weight, but the tops still don't fit due to the nursing-induced augmentation! And I've been holding off to avoid spending money on things I'll only be wearing a few more months.

  2. I went to Target (tar-zhay). I was there getting other stuff and wandered into the clothing section. They actually have very cute stuff! Got sassy gouchos--very flattering and forgiving because they are stretchy--and cute and stylish t-shirts and tanks in large and XL. It's not perfect, but it's an inexpensive temporary solution. And the good thing is that when I'm back to my regular size, these things will still work--at least the pants will--because they're so forgiving. Happy shopping!

  3. Anonymous11:25 AM

    I'm so glad you're back! I do have to say - baby #3 is 26 mos and I'm still wearing those in-betweens I bought b/c I was sick of feeling frumpy (Marshalls). Finally in a groove and working my way back into pre-baby#3 clothes - can pre-#2 be far behind??? Thanks for a great post.