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Wednesday, October 26, 2005

The Dating Game: Mom style

There's something about going to the park that feels like dating. Or maybe it's more like being out at a bar on singles night. Only instead of hoping for a hook-up, I'm hoping for a friend.

I was at the park yesterday surrounded by eligible bachelors--ahem, I mean moms. I just sat on the sidelines scoping out the women near the play structure, the sandbox. And it felt sleazy. And I hated doing it. I hate feeling like I'm out there again. I never wanted to be out there again, but super, fabulous Attorney Friend is relocating to Atlanta next week. I was so happy. We have such great chemistry. Our kids are the same age, and now I'm out there, sheepishly checking everyone from behind my giant sunglasses and navy newsboy cap.

And I don't want to talk to any of them. They all look all wrong for me. None of them seem like my type. It's so lame. It almost feels like not having any friends to talk to during lunch in high school. I have friends. Just none of them were there. So I felt awkward. I looked down at my corduroy pants and the giant holes in the heels of my socks. I avoided eye contact.

Who do I talk to? The mom with four over-stuffed bags of toys? No, she seemed over-prepared. The mom with the stain-free shirt and neat tied-back hair? No, she seemed too clean. I tried finding someone who looked like Attorney Friend, but I doubt any of these women can fill her shoes. I'm sure I'm being overly sensitive. I'm sure a lot of these women are just like me--looking for a buddy to help pass the time at the park.

Sure I have other friends, but a lot of them are MIA. So I sat by myself and waited for a familiar face to appear. And they did eventually, and the stress of losing one of my best friends subsided. At least temporarily.

3 comments:

  1. I can SO relate... speaking of going to the part looking for a mom-date, if I were to show up there this afternoon--I wouldn't even have friends that frequent the place at the same time anymore. This going back to work full time thing stinks!

    Can I borrow your big sunglasses and baseball hat? I'm gonna need it next Spring when I need to hop outside and be adventureous again.

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  2. I can relate too. Even blogged about "trolling the playground, looking for a date". It's funny--sometimes you like the moms, and the kids don't click. Sometimes the kids hit it off and you don't. Sometimes it is just hard to find other sahms on a similar schedule.

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  3. This cracks me up. I have so often played the game of sizing up potential friends by the way they look and if I saw a mom that looked over prepared or was dressed too snappily I'd have a similar reaction, she's too good for me... but the irony is that I try to look my best and be very prepared for visits to the park.

    Of course there's also the awkwardness of who makes the first move! And how do you go from woman-I-Talk-To-At-Park to Woman-I-Invite-To-My-House to, more importantly, Woman-With-Whom-I-Actually-Want-To-Continue-Relationship. I really really hate the part where I give a friendship a shot and decide that the other person is not a good match, but you can't "break up" with potential friends the same way you can with potential dates.

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