tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post111403435637047048..comments2024-02-14T14:37:30.781-08:00Comments on Mother in Chief: I'm not that kind of momMother in Chiefhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10096344221710006618noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post-1114183691828331082005-04-22T08:28:00.000-07:002005-04-22T08:28:00.000-07:00Well one thing's for sure, it's really difficult t...Well one thing's for sure, it's really difficult to foresee what your children will be like when they get older. Sometimes my kids will play quietly together. But since my daughter is the dainty one who likes to keep her hands clean and my son is so rough-and-tumble and could care less if his hands and face are covered with food, it doesn't take very long for them to bicker. But then they are still young. I'm hoping (REALLY hoping) that their bond will develop and they'll find something in common that they can play together without getting into a tug-of-war with me as the constant referee.<BR/><BR/>But each day is different. There are days when I can prepare elaborate dinners because for some reason the kids are perfectly fine doing their own thing. Currently, however, it's been a HUGE challenge, with my son wanting to copy everything my daughter does. So if he sees her quietly coloring at kitchen table, he insists upon doing the same thing, and that of course requires my intervention because he would literally try to pull her off her chair so he could get to that crayon in her hand. Unfortunately there aren't a whole lot of activities they can do together just yet because he WILL eat that crayon, which I know would drive my daughter to fits because she doesn't want slobbery crayons, not to mention broken ones. But I'll give him a few months because I do remember how much these kids can change in a matter of months. Hopefully by then they will sit peacefully together, sharing nicely, saying 'please' and 'thank you' to one another... Right now that is wishful thinking.manababieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972417886928074122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post-1114180120667568202005-04-22T07:28:00.000-07:002005-04-22T07:28:00.000-07:00I'm almost embarassed to admit that I've been sitt...I'm almost embarassed to admit that I've been sitting at the computer for 20 minutes, drinking coffee and catching up on email while my kids (5 and 2.5) have been playing independently with their dinosaurs in the next room.<BR/><BR/>I don't know how it happened - but right now, I seem to have 2 very independent children. They will often disappear for over an hour, amusing themselves and playing together.<BR/><BR/>I did everything possible to foster dependence. They slept in our bed. I nursed each one for 2 years. I'm a "sit on the floor and play" mom. I limit TV. I work - but only part time. Both were very "needy" infants and toddlers...but have somehow evolved into very independent preschoolers.<BR/><BR/>I know this stage won't last. Soon, they'll be fighting instead of playing. Or one will be in a new and different "needy" stage. Or sick. Or something.<BR/><BR/>But, for now. It is wonderful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post-1114134635258721252005-04-21T18:50:00.000-07:002005-04-21T18:50:00.000-07:00My oldest was very easy-going and I was home with ...My oldest was very easy-going and I was home with him for a year during what was supposed to be the terrible two's. He played very happily by himself. I set things up for him--legos, trains, stuffed animals--and he'd play away. He also took really, really long naps. I got bored. I did start doing some things. I learned how to build a web site. I chatted online with other parents, but I didn't have anything pressing. I had moved to a new place, thinking I would devote my time to raising my child and it turned out--he didn't need me all that much. Sure, he needed me to feed him, change him, occasionally entertain him, but still, there was lots of time when he didn't. <BR/><BR/>At the same time, we had friends with a very needy child--and I guess that's what I expected. That I would need to be there in some way all the time. By the way, the kid is 10 now, not needy at all and perhaps even a little "too" independent (an early teenager). :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10766222493968363248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post-1114133033835807842005-04-21T18:23:00.000-07:002005-04-21T18:23:00.000-07:00Network Admin Friend used to live near us, so I've...Network Admin Friend used to live near us, so I've watched her kids grow. They've always been rather independent. I suppose some of this could be personality, but I bet that a lot of it is parenting style.Mother in Chiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10096344221710006618noreply@blogger.com