tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post110853708316691444..comments2024-02-14T14:37:30.781-08:00Comments on Mother in Chief: The Magical, Maniacal, Mythical MotherMother in Chiefhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10096344221710006618noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post-1108582302042523212005-02-16T11:31:00.000-08:002005-02-16T11:31:00.000-08:00sounds like an interesting article. what is it wi...sounds like an interesting article. what is it with these expectations? why do we grow up with adults telling us we have so much potential, we can do anything we want? why does it end up feeling like that when we are stuck we've let them down? what is it that propels us to have to be a genius? to be that perfect mother? is this our only way to get self-worth? is it hollywood? i like to blame them for everything. i blame them for screwing with people's ideas of what relationships should be like. oh yeah, you hook up with the perfect guy and live happily ever after. right. we grow up in this country with such notions of what things *should* be like. there are countless books that tell you how you should be pregnant, raise your children, to get on with your spouse, blah blah...<br /><br />it's not our fault! we're caught up in this whole societal madness. it does seem to behoove us to reflect on this a bit. i find i get anxious about certain things, like is my child getting the right number of calories per day, drinking the right number of milliliters of breastmilk per day? or is my relationship with my mate working? is it wrong for me to not provide breastmilk to my child after 6 months? is my child in the correct growth percentile? did i exercise the correct number of minutes per day?<br /><br />i mean, ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<br /><br />i guess that is what i mean we need a sense of humor about all this BS. it's sort of funny. and really, more than anything, it seems like being relaxed about who we are, our lives is really going to be the most key element in providing a happy comfortable environment for our kids. cause you know our kids pick up on our anxieties.<br /><br />and we are toughest on ourselves. i mean suzanne, you are an awesome person. and i know you are approaching your parenting and career with great vigor and enthusiasm (definitely not hopelessness!!). what more can you want?! what more could you want from your child? i love it when my child's excited.<br /><br />sometimes i think it's so simple and yet we make it more complicated.<br /><br />ok, i'm gonna shush now. <br /><br />oh, i thought that this was an interesting op-ed piece in the ny times: <A HREF="http://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/14/opinion/14warner.html?n=Top%2fOpinion%2fEditorials%20and%20Op%2dEd%2fOp%2dEd%2fContributors" REL="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/14/opinion/14warner.html?n=Top%2fOpinion%2fEditorials%20and%20Op%2dEd%2fOp%2dEd%2fContributors</A>swampshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15931752753684287007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post-1108559626741221362005-02-16T05:13:00.000-08:002005-02-16T05:13:00.000-08:00As you might imagine, I wrote about the article my...As you might imagine, I wrote about the article myself. I kept nodding my head throughout the whole thing. I don't think I go to the extremes that some of the women in the article seem to, but there's still that desire to do well in both arenas. Having to realize that you're not living up to expectations in either is tough.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10766222493968363248noreply@blogger.com