tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post110732870327770566..comments2024-02-14T14:37:30.781-08:00Comments on Mother in Chief: Am I cute or what?Mother in Chiefhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10096344221710006618noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post-1107495888723401492005-02-03T21:44:00.000-08:002005-02-03T21:44:00.000-08:00Can I just say???? As a mom who's also trying to ...Can I just say???? As a mom who's also trying to "find herself", I just have to say you all are so serious!!! Goodness, all of this could be great fodder for a great comedic film. And what's so wrong with cute? Aren't our babies cute? Or maybe calling them cute trivializes their experiences, too. Has this ever been considered?<br /><br />Mother in Chief, maybe there's a very witty screenplay to be had, here. A group of mothers blogging about their experience, about the inequity of it all, the cuteness of their babies, scrapbooking, vegan cooking, offhand dad comments, etc... You know this would hit home with many, many, many....swampshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15931752753684287007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post-1107398319286418142005-02-02T18:38:00.000-08:002005-02-02T18:38:00.000-08:00I know exactly how you feel. I definitely don't f...I know exactly how you feel. I definitely don't feel that what my stay at home friends do is cute or trivial, but it is often kind of intimate. The home is an intimate setting and if the woman is in charge of the home, talking about what she does to manage it feels like talking about sex. It's a very personal thing, how you manage what you do at home, and I think people tend to judge based on what you do. Is your home neat or messy? Is your day filled with scrapbooking or writing or playing games with the kids? People try to judge what kind of person you are by the answers you give and because it's within the realm of the intimate, they think they've glimpsed the real you. Which, of course, they haven't. I haven't really thought about this much, but I have a friend who writes about domesticity in the world wars and the separation of the public and private. And that's what made me follow this train of thought. The home is a private space. What's done privately is somehow not as important as what's done publicly.<br /><br />I really like what you write here. It really makes you think about why we do what we do and things are viewed certain ways. At least you have a dialogue going.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10766222493968363248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9999144.post-1107395271737319022005-02-02T17:47:00.000-08:002005-02-02T17:47:00.000-08:00The "cute" comment is kind of emblematic of how wo...The "cute" comment is kind of emblematic of how women's experiences, attributes, concerns, and work tend to be undervalued. It's hard to disentangle the intrinsic value of an activity from the social constructs surrounding it---if scrapbooking were a male hobby, would it be considered "cute", or is it the fact that women do it that makes it so?<br /><br />Anyway, I'm sorry your day turned sour. It sounded nice to me!Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17358441701832129130noreply@blogger.com